Black Women’s Romantic and Intimate Relationships

Donna Baptiste; Adia Gooden

doi:10.1017/9781108913447.015

11 - Black Women’s Romantic and Intimate Relationships

from Part III - Core Themes in Black Women’s Stress and Distress

Published online by Cambridge University Press: 22 June 2023

Donna Baptiste and

Adia Gooden

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Donna Baptiste: Affiliation:
Northwestern University, Illinois
Adia Gooden: Affiliation:
Unconditionally Worthy, Co.

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Black women’s romantic and intimate relationships are explored in both heterosexual and queer unions. We discuss the strengths of Black women’s romantic unions and examine conditions that create stress and distress for Black women in marriage, cohabitation, and sexual and dating relationships. We discuss cultural, structural, and historical dynamics that drive Black women’s relationship stereotypes and challenges. We also address conditions that create unusual relational risks for Black women, including sexually transmitted infections and intimate partner violence.

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Black women romantic intimate relationships

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Information: Promoting Black Women's Mental Health
What Practitioners Should Know and Do
, pp. 263 - 287

DOI: https://doi.org/10.1017/9781108913447.015 [Opens in a new window]

Publisher: Cambridge University Press

Print publication year: 2023

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