Culture and the Challenges of Being a Good Parent

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Chapter 10 - Culture and the Challenges of Being a Good Parent

from Part IV - Current Trends

Published online by Cambridge University Press: 05 January 2024

Sara Harkness ,

Charles M. Super ,

Marjolijn J. M. Blom ,

Ughetta Moscardino ,

Sabrina Bonichini ,

Moises Rios Bermudez ,

Barbara Welles and

Edited by

James J. Gross and

Isabelle Roskam: Affiliation:
Université Catholique de Louvain, Belgium
James J. Gross: Affiliation:
University of California, Berkeley
Moïra Mikolajczak: Affiliation:
Université Catholique de Louvain, Belgium

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Culture sets the agenda for parenting and defines what being a good parent entails. In this chapter, we review evidence for this point from both the popular literature and from cross-cultural academic research, including our own. Parenting ideas and practices in the United States, Europe, sub-Saharan Africa, and East Asia are described as they relate to the challenges of being a good parent. Particular attention is given to the role of culturally based parental ethnotheories as a basis for action and reflection on oneself as a parent. The chapter concludes with consideration of how current rapid culture change creates new challenges for being a good parent and thus for emotion regulation and a sense of well-being.

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culture emotion regulation parental ethnotheories

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Information: Emotion Regulation and Parenting , pp. 189 - 204

DOI: https://doi.org/10.1017/9781009304368.015 [Opens in a new window]

Publisher: Cambridge University Press

Print publication year: 2023

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