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Changes in Self-Silencing From Adolescence to Emerging Adulthood and Associations With Relationship Quality and Coping With Relationship Stressors

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  27 December 2018

Shmuel Shulman ,
Jerika C. Norona ,
Miri Scharf ,
Ido Ziv  and
Deborah P. Welsh
Shmuel Shulman
Affiliation:
Department of Psychology, Faculty of Social Sciences, Bar-Ilan University, Ramat-Gan, Israel
Jerika C. Norona*
Affiliation:
Department of Psychology, College of Arts and Sciences, The University of Tennessee, Knoxville, Tennessee, USA
Miri Scharf
Affiliation:
Department of Counseling and Human Development, University of Haifa, Haifa, Israel
Ido Ziv
Affiliation:
Department of Psychology, College of Management, Rishon Le'Zion, Israel
Deborah P. Welsh
Affiliation:
Department of Psychology, College of Arts and Sciences, The University of Tennessee, Knoxville, Tennessee, USA
*
Address for correspondence: Jerika C. Norona at 305 Austin Peay Building, The University of Tennessee, Knoxville, TN 37996, USA. Email: [email protected]
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Abstract

Self-silencing is a tendency to suppress the expression of thoughts and opinions from a romantic partner due to the fear that this self-expression would lead to a dissolution of the relationship. The aim of the current study was to assess the longitudinal effects of self-silencing during adolescence and its change across time in the context of future romantic relationships at the age of 23. In the current study, the level of self-silencing was assessed among 144 adolescents (86 females) aged 16–18 years (mean age = 16.57 years). Seven years later at the age of 23, participants reported again on the level of self-silencing, the quality of their romantic relationships, and their ability to cope with romantic stressors. Employing regression analyses, results showed that self-silencing at age 16 predicted more concealment. In addition, changes in self-silencing over time explained the variance within future levels of concealment, partner support, relationship certainty, and posttraumatic growth. Embedded within a developmental framework, our results illuminate the importance of considering both initial levels of relational vulnerabilities and their change over time in future romantic relationships.

Keywords

self-silencingadolescenceemerging adulthooddating relationships
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Research Article
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Journal of Relationships Research , Volume 9 , 2018 , e21
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Copyright © The Author(s) 2018 

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