Book contents
- Frontmatter
- Contents
- Foreword
- Preface to the 1995 edition
- Acknowledgements
- 1 The Handicap of Deafness
- 2 The Deaf Child at Play
- 3 Day-to-Day Living
- 4 Discipline and Punishment
- 5 Learning to Communicate: Equipment
- 6 Learning to Communicate: Education
- 7 Coming to Terms with Deafness
- 8 Family Life with a Deaf Child
- 9 The Family and the Community
- 10 Overview
- Appendix I The Interview Schedule
- Appendix II The Interview Situation: Advantages and Disadvantages
- Appendix III The Sample
- Bibliography
- Index
4 - Discipline and Punishment
Published online by Cambridge University Press: 24 November 2009
- Frontmatter
- Contents
- Foreword
- Preface to the 1995 edition
- Acknowledgements
- 1 The Handicap of Deafness
- 2 The Deaf Child at Play
- 3 Day-to-Day Living
- 4 Discipline and Punishment
- 5 Learning to Communicate: Equipment
- 6 Learning to Communicate: Education
- 7 Coming to Terms with Deafness
- 8 Family Life with a Deaf Child
- 9 The Family and the Community
- 10 Overview
- Appendix I The Interview Schedule
- Appendix II The Interview Situation: Advantages and Disadvantages
- Appendix III The Sample
- Bibliography
- Index
Summary
In all discussions of bringing up children, whether handicapped or not, the question of discipline and punishment rears its ugly head. Among parents in general there is a wide spectrum of views, ranging from the opinion that one must firmly enforce a given set of rules to a feeling that children should come to decide for themselves how they should behave. With parents of deaf children, too, both ends of this spectrum were represented.
Boy, 2 years, severely deaf
I've quite a different concept from many people, you know, not talking in terms of strict. I don't think the word applies. Children are children; they're developing human beings and you guide and assist their development, not for basic moral principles. I don't have a standard of table manners I expect him to reach, but I do hope to help him understand that he's not the only one at the table, and that he's got to take his place.
Girl, 4 years, profoundly deaf
You've just got to (smack deaf children). I mean you can't let them rule you. Once you let them get topside of you, you might as well pack up and go home. You've got to show them who's the boss, and you've got to stick it out to the end.
‘I think he's got to be treated more like a normal child than a normal child’
Some parents were emphatic in the view that the best hope their child had of being integrated into normal adult society was to be treated as normally as possible.
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- Deaf Children and their Families , pp. 66 - 79Publisher: Cambridge University PressPrint publication year: 1995