In Chapter 2, we argue why parental NVR is well-suited to treating entrenched dependence. We describe why attempts at individual therapy for the adult-child or traditional parental counseling usually fail. These failures have different forms, such as: (a) the adult-child refuses therapy; (b) the adult-child accepts therapy, but entitled dependence persists; (c) the parents are advised to show unconditional acceptance, but the dependence remains unaffected; or (d) the parents are advised to be tough, but are daunted when they stumble on frightening escalation. We argue that parents are almost invariably the motivated partners, that they deserve to be viewed as clients in their own right, and that involving the adult-child would distract the parents and the therapist from their job. We elaborate some central insights underlying parental NVR, such as: (a) that the parents' narrative of total responsibility actually prevents improvement; and (b) that parental accommodation aggravates and perpetuates the problem. The chapter concludes with a description of treatment goals and of what changes can be realistically expected.

This chapter examines the storied and constant presence of violence in the Pacific from the earliest imperial phases in the sixteenth century to the eve of the greatest cataclysm of violence in the region: World War Two. It explores how and why violence altered over this long period, considering the impacts of technologies, economies, ideologies and colonial experiences from other imperial theatres that were deeply integrated with the Pacific from the outset. It weighs the impact of conditions particular to the Pacific – the immense asymmetries of power and population sizes, vast distances and the great diversity of human and natural geographies – on how violence shaped the Pacific across this historical expanse. Also, as it took five centuries to integrate the entire region into global systems, first encounters between Indigenous and colonial peoples, where violence often set a course for future relations, played out repeatedly across the region and across time, beginning in the early sixteenth century and ending in the 1930s in the New Guinea Highlands. This chapter is framed around innovative Indigenous responses to imperial violence, particularly the philosophy of non-violent resistance that emerged in New Zealand in the 1860s that went on to influence the course of other historical episodes.